Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the participants usually taking on complementary, but unequal roles, thus the idea of consent of both the partners becomes essential. Typically participants who are active – applying the activity or exercising control over others – are known as
tops or dominants. Those participants who are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners are typically known as
bottoms or submissives. Individuals who assume either top/dominant or bottom/submissive roles — whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship — are known as
switches.
[1]
Fundamentals
A woman is chained to the wall in bondage.
The term BDSM has become a broad term for eroticized behavior between consenting adults. There is little that unites all the disparate
subcultures which are grouped under the umbrella term BDSM. Interpersonal relationships which are based on the
social conventions of one of the BDSM subcultures, exist in marked contrast with the current
Western ideal of such relationships being based on a partnership between equals.
While the terminology for roles varies widely within the various BDSM subcultures,
Top and
Dominant are widely recognized terms for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity which are respectively the physically active or controlling participants, and
Bottom and
Submissive are widely recognized terms for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity which are respectively the physically receptive or controlled participants. The interaction between Tops and Bottoms, where physical and/or mental control of the Bottom is surrendered to the Top – whether in the context of a short term encounter typically referred to as a
scene, or in the context of a longer-term relationship – is sometime known as
power exchange.
BDSM actions can often take place during a specific period of time agreed to by both parties, referred to as "play", "a scene" or "a session". Parties involved usually derive pleasure from this, even though many of the practices that are performed, such as inflicting pain,
humiliation or being restrained would be considered unpleasant under normal circumstances.
Sexual intercourse, be it
oral,
anal or
vaginal, may occur within a session, but is not essential.
[2] Such explicit sexual interaction is seen only extremely rarely in public play spaces, and is often a violation of the standing rules in most spaces.
The fundamental principles for the exercise of BDSM require that it should be performed by responsible partners, of their own volition, and in a safe way. Since the 1980s these basic principles have been condensed into the motto "Safe, sane and consensual", abbreviated as SSC, which means that everything is based on safe, sane and consenting behavior of all involved parties.
[3] This mutual consent makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and crimes such as sexual assault or
domestic violence.
[4]Some BDSM practitioners prefer a code of behavior that differs from "SSC" and described as "Risk Aware Consensual Kink" (RACK), indicating a preference of a style in which the
individualresponsibility of the involved parties is emphasized more strongly, with each participant being responsible for his or her own well-being. RACK focuses primarily upon awareness and informed consent, rather than accepted safe practices.
[5] Consent is the most important criterion here. The consent and compliance for a sadomasochistic situation can be granted only by people who are able to judge the potential results. For their consent, they must have relevant information (extent to which the scene will go, potential risks, if a safeword will be used, what that is, and so on.) at hand and the necessary mental capacity to judge. The resulting consent and understanding can often be summarized in a written "
contract"; an agreement of what can and cannot take place.
[6]In general, it must be possible for the consenting partner to withdraw his or her consent;
[7] for example, by using a
safeword that was agreed on in advance.
[8][9] Failure to honor a safeword is considered serious misconduct and could even change the sexual consent situation into a crime, depending on the relevant law,
[8] since the bottom has explicitly revoked his or her consent to any actions which follow the use of the safeword (see
Legal status).
Aside from the general advice related to
safe sex, BDSM sessions often require a wider array of safety precautions than typical
vanilla sex (sexual behavior without BDSM elements).
[8]To ensure consensus related to BDSM activity, pre-play
negotiations are commonplace, especially among partners who do not know each other very well. These negotiations concern the interests and fantasies of each partner and establish a framework.
[10] This kind of discussion is a typical "unique selling proposition" of BDSM sessions and quite commonplace.
[11] Additionally,
safewords are often arranged to provide for an immediate stop of any activity if any participant should so desire.
[12] Safewords are, by definition, not commonly used words during any kind of play. Such things as "no", "stop", and "don't", are not appropriate as a safeword due to the tendency for people to say those things without meaning it. A safeword needs to be something one can remember and call to mind when things are either not going as planned or have crossed a threshold one cannot handle. The most common used form of safewords are "green", "yellow", and "red". "Red" meaning to stop and there would be no further play. "Yellow" being, "This is getting too intense". "Green" meaning that everything is okay.
[citation needed]Participants of BDSM understand practical safety aspects; for instance they recognize which parts of the human body have a risk of damage to nerves and blood vessels by
contusion or have a high risk of scar development. Using
crops,
whips, or
floggers, the top's fine motor skills and anatomical knowledge can make the difference between a satisfying session for the bottom, and a highly unpleasant experience that may even entail severe physical harm.
[13] The very broad range of different
BDSM "toys" and physical and psychological control techniques often requires a far-reaching knowledge of details related to the requirements of the individual session, such as
anatomy,
physics, and
psychology.
[14][15][16] Despite these risks, BDSM activities usually result in far less severe injuries than sports like boxing and football, and BDSM practitioners do not visit emergency rooms more often than the general population.
[17]It is necessary to be able to identify each person's psychological
squicks or
"freakouts" in advance in order to avoid them. Such losses of emotional balance due to sensory or emotional overload are a fairly common issue. It is important to follow their reactions
empathetically and continue or stop accordingly.
[8][18][edit]Aspects
The initialism BDSM includes psychological and physiological facets:
- Bondage & Discipline (B&D)
- Dominance & Submission (D&S)
- Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M)
- Types of Play
This model for differentiating among these three aspects of BDSM is increasingly used in literature today.
[1] Nevertheless, it is only an attempt at phenomenological differentiation. Individual tastes and preferences in the area of sexuality may overlap among these areas, which are discussed separately here.
[edit]Bondage and discipline
Main articles:
Bondage and
Discipline
Two women tapegagged and cuffed to iron bars
Bondage and Discipline are two aspects of BDSM that do not seem to relate to one another because of the type of the activities involved, but they have conceptual similarities, and that is why they appear jointly. Contrary to the other two types, B/D does not define the Tops and Bottoms itself, and is used to describe the general activities with either partner being the receiver and the giver.
[19]The term "Bondage" describes the practice of Physical restraining. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice.
[20] While bondage is a very popular variation within the larger field of BDSM, it is nevertheless sometimes differentiated from the rest of this field.
[21] Studies among BDSM practitioners in the U.S. have shown that about half of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; many women do as well. Strictly speaking, bondage means binding the partner by tying their appendages together; for example, by the use of handcuffs or by lashing their arms to an object. Bondage can also be achieved by spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains to a
St. Andrews cross or
spreader bars.
[22]The term "Discipline" describes the Psychological restraining, with the use of rules and punishment to control overt behavior.
[19] Punishment can be pain caused physically (such as caning), humiliation caused psychologically (such as a public flagellation) or loss of freedom caused physically (for example, chaining the Bottom to the foot of a bed). Another aspect is the structured training of the Bottom.
[23][edit]Dominance and submission
"Dominance and submission" (also known as
D&s,
Ds or
D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of control of one individual over another in an erotic or
lifestyle context. It explores the more mental aspect of BDSM. This is also the case in many relationships not considering themselves as sadomasochistic; it is considered to be a part of BDSM if it is practiced purposefully. The range of its individual characteristics is thereby wide.
[24]
Strappado with rope and a spreader bar. This practice has a distinct effect of immobilization and pain.
Examples of mentally oriented practices are
education games, during which the dominant requires certain forms of behavior from the submissive. Special forms include erotic roleplay like
ageplay, in which a difference in age, either real or enacted, formulates the background; or
petplay. Concerted deployed sexual rejection exercised on the partner can be an aspect of
Dominance and Submission as well (see
cuckoldry). The most established and probably most cliché set form of dominance and submission is
Dominance and slavery. These can be administered for the short duration of a session among otherwise-emancipated partners, but also can be integrated into everyday life indefinitely. In a few relationships, it leads as far as total submission of one partner in the truest sense of the phrase
total power exchange. Compensating elements of the total dominance and submission are care and devotion complementing one another, thus facilitating stable relationships. The consensual submission of the sub is sometimes demonstrated to others by symbols indicating his/her belonging to the dom, such as
wearing a collar, special
tattoos,
piercings, a very short haircut or a bald head.
Often, "
slave contracts" are set out in writing to record the formal consent of the parties to the power exchange, stating their common vision of the relationship dynamic. The purpose of this kind of agreement is primarily to encourage discussion and negotiation in advance, and then to document that understanding for the benefit of all parties. Such documents have not been recognized as being legally binding, nor are they intended to be. These agreements are binding in the sense that the parties have the expectation that the negotiated rules will be followed. Often other friends and community members may witness the signing of such a document in a ceremony, and so parties violating their agreement can result in loss of face, respect or status with their friends in the community.
In general as compared to conventional relationships, BDSM participants go to great lengths to negotiate the important aspects of their relationships in advance, and to take great care in learning about and following safe practices.
[edit]Sadomasochism
Erotic spanking on a male Bottom.
Main article:
SadomasochismThe term
sadomasochism is derived from the words
sadism and
masochism (see
Etymology). In the context of consensual sexual activities, sadism and masochism are not strictly accurate terms; there is a significant difference from the medical or psychological usage of both terms. Sadomasochism refers to the physical aspects of BDSM. Sadism describes sexual pleasure derived by inflicting
pain, degradation, or humiliation on another person. On the other hand, the masochist enjoys being bound, spanked or suffering within the consensual scenario. Sadomasochism does not imply enjoyment through causing or receiving pain in other situations (for example, accidental injury, medical procedures). Discipline often incorporates sadomasochistic aspects. Sadomasochism is practiced in isolation relatively rarely, although certain practices BDSM can be performed solo, such as
self-bondage and
autoerotic asphyxia, but such practices can be dangerous, at times resulting in injury or death.
[25]Both, D/S and S/M self define the Top and Bottom, with Dominant/Sadist being the Top and Submissive/Masochist being the Bottom. Whereas in B/D the declaration of the Top/Bottom is required.
[19][edit]Physical aspects
A woman's back covered with different colored waxes.
On a physical level BDSM is commonly misconceived to be "all about pain".
[26] Most often though BDSM practitioners are primarily concerned with power, humiliation, and pleasure.
[26] Of the three categories of BDSM only sadomasochism specifically requires pain, but this is typically a vehicle for feelings of humiliation, dominance, and the such. The aspects of D/S and B/D may not include physical suffering at all, but include the sensations inherited by different emotions of the mind.
[26] Dominance & Submission of power is an entirely different experience, and is not always psychologically associated with physical pain. Many BDSM activities might not involve any kind of pain or humiliation, but just the exchange of Powers (Power Exchange).
[19][26] During the activities, the practitioners feel
endorphins to the so-called "runner’s high" or to the afterglow of
orgasm.
[27] The corresponding
trance-like mental state is also known as "
subspace" and is regularly described as very comforting. Some use the term "body stress" to describe this physiological sensation.
[28] This experience of
algolagnia is important, but is not the only motivation for many BDSM practitioners. The philosopher
Edmund Burke defines this sensation of pleasure derived from pain by the word
sublime.
[29] There is a wide array of BDSM practitioners who take part in sessions for which they do not receive any personal gratification. They enter such situations solely with the intention to allow their partners to fulfill their own needs and/or
fetishes. They do this in exchange of money for the session activities.
[19]In some BDSM sessions, the Top exposes the Bottom to a wide range of sensual impressions, for example: pinching, biting, scratching with fingernails,
spanking or the use of various objects such as
crops,
whips, liquid
wax,
icecubes,
Wartenberg wheels,
erotic electrostimulation or others.
[30] Fixation by
handcuffs,
ropes or
chains may be used as well. The repertoire of possible "toys" is limited only by the imagination of both partners. To some extent, everyday items like
clothes-pins,
wooden spoons or
plastic wrap are used as
pervertibles.
[31] It is commonly considered that a pleasurable BDSM experience during a session is very strongly dependent upon the top's competence and experience and the bottom's physical and mental state at the time of the session. Trust and
sexual arousal help the partners enter a shared mindset.
[32][33] Some BDSM practitioners compare related sensations with musical compositions and representation, in which single sensual impressions are the musical notes of the situation. From this point of view, different sensuous impressions are combined to create a total experience leaving a lasting impression.
[edit]Some types of play
[edit]Relationships
[edit]Top and bottom
A typical slave collar with ring for possible attachment of a leash. Such or comparable models are sometimes used by bottoms as a symbol of ownership to their tops.
In a BDSM relationship the partner who has the active (i.e. controlling) role in a session or in the entire relationship is described as the "top", a role that often involves inflicting pain, degradation or subjugation. The partner referred to as the "bottom", or more frequently as the
sub (short for submissive), submits voluntarily to the actions of the top. Although the top usually is the dominant and the bottom the submissive partner, it is not inevitably so. In some cases the top follows instructions, i.e., he "tops" the bottom according to the bottom's desires and in a way the bottom expressly requires. A top only having apparent control, while in reality conforming to the instructions given by the bottom, is referred to as a
service top. In contrast a dominant top controls their submissive partner by using physical or psychological techniques. If desired the top can even instruct the submissive partner to exercise temporary control. The Japanese words 'Seme' and 'Uke' can respectively be used to describe the 'top' or 'bottom' within a BDSM relationship, or in
yaoi to refer to the partner that is penetrating, and the partner that is being penetrated.
[citation needed]A similar distinction also may apply to bottoms. At one end of the spectrum are those who are indifferent to, or even reject physical stimulation. At the other end of the spectrum are bottoms who enjoy physical and psychological stimulation but are not willing to be subordinate to the person who applies it. The bottom is frequently the partner who specifies the basic conditions of the session and gives instructions, directly or indirectly, in the prelude to the session, while the top often respects this guidance. Other bottoms try to incur punishment from their top by provoking them or "misbehaving". Nevertheless a small, very puristic "school"
[34] exists within the BDSM community, which regards such "topping from the bottom" as incompatible with the standards of BDSM relations.
Main article:
Switch (BDSM)BDSM practitioners may also be a "switch", meaning they play either or both roles, top or bottom, depending on the actual session's setting. They may practice this within one specific session or take these different roles in different sessions with the same or different partners. There are many reasons for this. Sometimes a switch lives in a relationship with a partner of the same primary preference (for example, two tops), so switching represents the only possibility of being able to fulfill all of his or her BDSM needs within the relationship. Some people change roles without regarding themselves as switches since they do it very irregularly, or only under certain circumstances.
[edit]Types of relationships
BDSM practitioners sometimes regard the practice of BDSM in their sex life as
role playing and so often use the terms "Play" and "Playing" to describe activities where they're in their perspective roles. Play of this sort for a specified period of time is often called a "Session", and the contents and the circumstances of play are often referred to as the "Scene". It is also common in personal relationships to use the term "Kink Play" for BDSM activities, or more specific terms for the type of activity. The relationships can be of varied types.
[edit]Long term
Early writings on BDSM both by the academic and BDSM community spoke little of long-term relationships with some in the Gay Leather community suggesting short-term play relationships to be the only feasible relationship models, and recommending people to get married and "play" with BDSM outside of marriage. In recent times though writers of BDSM and sites for BDSM have been more focused on long-term relationships.
A 2003 study, the first to look at these relationships, fully demonstrated that "quality long-term functioning relationships" exist among practitioners of BDSM, with either sex being the top or bottom (homosexual couples were not looked at).
[35] Respondents in the study expressed their BDSM orientation to be built into who they are, but considered exploring their BDSM interests an ongoing task, and showed flexibility and adaptability in order to match their interests with their partners.
[36] The "perfect match" where both in the relationship shared the same tastes and desires was rare, and most relationships required both partners to take up or put away some of their desires.
[36] The BDSM activities that the couples partook in varied in sexual to nonsexual significance for the partners who reported doing certain BDSM activities for "couple bonding, stress release, and spiritual quests".
[37] The most reported issue amongst respondents was not finding enough time to be in role with most adopting a 24/7 lifestyle wherein both partners maintain their dominant or submissive role throughout the day.
[38]Amongst the respondents it was typically the bottoms who wanted to play harder, and be more restricted into their roles when there was a difference in desire to play in the relationship.
[38][39] The author of the study, Bert Cutler, speculated that tops may be less often in the mood to play due to the increased demand for responsibility on their part: being aware of the safety of the situation and prepared to remove the bottom from a dangerous scenario, being conscious of the desires and limits of the bottom, and so on.
[39] The author of the study stressed that successful long-term BDSM relationships came after "early and thorough disclosure" from both parties of their BDSM interests.
[39]Many of those engaged in long-term BDSM relationships learned their skills from larger BDSM organizations and communities
[40] There was a lot of discussion by the respondents on the amount of control the top possessed in the relationships with almost non-existent discussion of the top "being better, or smarter, or of more value" than the bottom.
[41] Couples were generally of the same mind of whether or not they were in 24/7 relationship, but noted that in such cases the bottom is not locked up 24/7, but that their role in the context of the relationship was always present, even when the top is doing non-dominant activities such as household chores: cleaning, taking out the trash, and so on., or the bottom being in a more dominant position.
[41] In its conclusion the study states:
The respondents valued themselves, their partners, and their relationships. All couples expressed considerable good will toward their partners. The power exchange between the cohorts appears to be serving purposes beyond any sexual satisfaction, including experiencing a sense of being taken care of and bonding with a partner.[42]
The study further goes on to list three aspects that made the successful relationships work: early disclosure of interests and continued transparency, a commitment to personal growth, and the use of the dominant/submissive roles as a tool to maintain the relationship.
[43] In his closing remarks the author of the study theorizes that due to the serious potential for harm that couples in BDSM relationships develop increased communication that may be higher than in mainstream relationships
[44][edit]24/7 lifestyle
Demonstration of
Shibari bondage techniques at the Folsom 2003 street fair.
A subset of long-term BDSM relationships are relationships in which everyday life is clearly framed by the concept of BDSM even outside of sexual activities.
[8] The partners involved maintain in their daily life an appropriate balance of power and accordingly make aspects of BDSM a consistent part of their lifestyle. Here, BDSM cannot be designated a merely sexual phenomenon. The term "
24/7 relationship" is derived from 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Another term for such behavior is "D/s", derived from "Dominant/submissive". The dominant partner controls most aspects of the submissive's life. Particular areas of life such as work, family, or friends can be excluded from the D/s relationship and not be placed under control of the dominant partner. Some D/s relationships, however, cover all areas of life; such constellations are designated as a "
Total Power Exchange" (TPE). In D/s, and especially in TPE relationships, changes in the balance of power (so-called "Switching") only rarely take place. TPE relationships probably represent the least common role behavior within the BDSM spectrum. One such
Matriarchal community that promotes this is the
Other World Kingdom community.
[edit]Professional services
A professional
dominatrix or
professional dominant, often referred to within the culture as a "pro-domme", offers services encompassing the range of bondage, discipline, and dominance in exchange for money. Such professional services might not include sexual intercourse, and may and may not include masturbation or ejaculation of semen by other means. In many cases, the gratification or climax of the client does not include direct orgasm, and is dealt respectively. It is common among dominatrices to separate themselves from
prostitutes, though there are plenty of prostitutes who also work as professional dominatrices.
[19]The term "Dominatrix" is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene. A non-professional dominant woman is more commonly referred to simply as a "Domme", "Dominant", or "Femdom". There are also services provided by professional female submissives ("pro-subs"). A professional submissive consents to her client's dominant behavior within negotiated limits, and often works within a professional
dungeon. Although far more rare
professional submissives do exist.
[45] Most of the people who work as subs normally have tendencies towards such activities, especially when sadomasochism is involved.
[citation needed] Males also work as professional "Tops" in BDSM, and are called "Doms" or "Maledoms". However it is much more rare to find a male in this profession. (It should also be noted that a male "pro-dom" typically only works with male clientele)
[19][edit]Scene: subculture and public
Spanking with a
paddle in a BDSM dungeon in New York City.
Today the BDSM culture exists in most western countries.
[46] This offers BDSM practitioners the opportunity to discuss BDSM relevant topics and problems with like-minded people. This culture is often viewed as a
subculture, mainly because BDSM is often still regarded as "unusual" by some of the public. Many people hide their leaning from society since they are afraid of the incomprehension and of social exclusion. It is commonly known in the BDSM culture that there are practitioners living on all continents, but there is no documented evidence for many countries (due to restrictive laws and censorship motivated by politics or religion) except their presence in online BDSM communities and dating sites.
This scene appears particularly on the
Internet, in publications, and in meetings such as SM parties, gatherings called
munches, and erotic fairs. The annual
Folsom Street Fair is the world's largest BDSM event.
[47] It has its roots in the gay leather movement. There are also conventions like
Living in Leather,
TESfest' Shibaricon, Spankfest, and Black Rose. North American cities that have large BDSM communities include New York City, Atlanta, Seattle, Denver,Los Angeles, Boston, Chicago, Houston, Philadelphia, San Francisco, San Diego, Dallas, Minneapolis, Toronto, Winnipeg, and Vancouver. European cities with large BDSM communities include London, Paris, Berlin, Amsterdam, Munich, Cologne, Hamburg and Rome.[edit]Symbols
BDSM and fetish items and styles have been spread widely in western societies' everyday life by different factors, such as
avant-garde fashion,
heavy metal,
goth subculture, and
science fiction TV series,
[48] and are often not consciously connected with their BDSM roots by many people. While it was mainly confined to the
Punk and BDSM subcultures in the 1990s, it has since spread into wider parts of western societies.
The
Leather Pride flag is a symbol for the Leather subculture and also widely used within BDSM. In continental Europe the
Ring of O is widespread among BDSM practitioners. The
Triskelion, is common in English-speaking communities.
The BDSM Rights Flag intended to represent the belief that people whose sexuality or relationship preferences include Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, or Sadism and Masochism ("BDSM") deserve the same human rights as everyone else, and should not be discriminated against for pursuing BDSM with consenting adults.
The flag is inspired by the Leather Pride Flag and Quagmyr's BDSM Emblem, but is specifically intended to represent the concept of BDSM Rights and to be without the other symbols' restrictions against commercial use. It's designed to be recognisable by people familiar with either the Leather Pride Flag or BDSM Triskelion (or Triskele) as "something to do with BDSM"; and to be distinctive whether reproduced in full colour, or in black and white (or another pair of colours.)
[49][edit]Prejudices
Understanding of BDSM culture and practices remains intertwined with
prejudices,
clichés and
stereotypes. Misunderstandings may arise from general lack of knowledge concerning sexuality and sexual practices as well as misconceptions on how one's personal life and public persona can vary greatly. For example, it is sometimes assumed that a submissive would prefer to experience pain and degradation in their everyday life, or conversely, that they would prefer to have exactly the opposite. There is no clear correlation between the position in everyday life and BDSM preferences. A further misunderstanding is that members of BDSM communities want only to be hurt or to inflict physical, psychological and mental pain, which diminishes and disparages the emotional and spiritual relationships that develop.
[50]Another misconception is the idea of women generally being the dominant party in BDSM relationships. Quite often the picture of BDSM is reduced to the idea of crude corporal punishment, neglecting the broad spectrum of behaviors within the culture. Along with the whip-swinging dominatrix, the sadomasochist in full leather regalia is another common cliché. While overlaps between different kinds of
fetishism can exist, there is no inevitable connection between BDSM and fetishism (for example,: latex, PVC or leather). The frequent occurrence of such clothing can be partly explained by its function as a quasi-formalized dress code.
Since the term BDSM covers a broad range of human behavior, the arising spectrum of individual interests and personalities is large and extremely diverse. Due to the lack of information in the total population and the reluctance with many to
come out about matters of an extremely personal nature leads to situations in which actions and statements of individual BDSM practitioners are accredited to the community at large just as the larger
LGBT community has been characterized by
drag queensand other minority communities similarly mischaracterized.
At least in the western, industrialized countries and Japan, since the 1980s sadomasochists have begun to form information exchange and support groups to counter discriminatory images. This has happened independently in the
United States and in several European countries. With the advent of the web, international cooperation has started to develop—for example
Datenschlag is a joint effort of sadomasochists in the three major
German-speaking countries, and the mailing list
Schlagworteuses the model of a
news agency to connect six countries. Some credit highly publicized events like
Operation Spanner and the International leather contests with fostering international cooperation and collaboration.
[edit]Coming out
Carriage drawn by a Pony-Girl,
Petplay at the
Folsom Parade 2005.
Some people who feel attracted by the situations usually compiled under the term BDSM reach a point where they decide to come out of the closet, though many sadomasochists keep themselves
closeted. Even so, depending upon a survey's participants, about 5 to 25 percent of the US-American population show affinity to the subject.
[51][52] Other than a few artists, practically no celebrities are publicly known as sadomasochists.
Public knowledge of one's BDSM lifestyle can have devastating vocational and social effects (
Persona non grata) for sadomasochists. The reason for this is seen by some authors as primarily a lack of public educational advertising, exacerbated by overly lurid and sensationalized media coverage.
Within feminist circles the discussion has been split roughly into two camps: some who see BDSM as an aspect or reflection of oppression (for example,
Alice Schwarzer) and, on the other side, pro-BDSM feminists, often grouped under the banner of
sex-positive feminism (see
Samois); both of them can be traced back to the 1970s.
[53]Some feminists have criticized BDSM for eroticizing power and violence, and for reinforcing
misogyny. They argue that women who engage in BDSM are making a choice that is ultimately bad for women.
[54] Feminist defenders of BDSM argue that consensual BDSM activities are enjoyed by many women and validate the sexual inclinations of these women.
[55] They argue that feminists should not attack other woman's sexual desires as being "anti-feminist", and point out that there is no connection between consensual kinky activities and sex crimes. The main point of feminism is giving an individual woman free choices in her life; that includes her sexual desire. While some radical feminists suggest connections between consensual BDSM
scenes and non-consensual
rape and
sexual assault, sex-positive feminists may tend to find this insulting to women.
[56][57]It is often mentioned that in BDSM, roles are not fixed to
gender, but personal preferences. Several studies on the correlation of BDSM pornography and the violence against women recapitulate that there is no correlation.
Japan is a useful example: a country which has the lowest rate of sexual crimes of all industrialized nations while being well known for its comprehensive BDSM and bondage pornography (see
Pornography in Japan).
[58] In 1991 a lateral survey came to the conclusion that between 1964 and 1984, despite the increase in amount and availability of sadomasochistic pornography in the US,
Germany,
Denmark and
Sweden there is no correlation with the national number of rapes to be found.
[59]Operation Spanner in the UK proves that BDSM practitioners still run the risk of being
stigmatized as criminals. In 2003, the media coverage of
Jack McGeorge showed that simply participating and working in BDSM support groups poses risks to one's job, even in countries where no law restricts it.
[60] Here a clear difference can be seen to the situation of
homosexuals.
[clarification needed] The psychological strain appearing in some individual cases is normally neither articulated nor acknowledged in public. Nevertheless it leads to a difficult psychological situation in which the person concerned can be exposed to high levels of emotional stress.
[61] In the stages of "self awareness" , he or she realizes their desires related to BDSM scenarios and/or decides to be open for such. Some authors call this
internal coming-out. Two separate surveys on this topic independently came to the conclusion that 58 percent and 67 percent of the sample respectively, had realized their disposition before their 19th birthday. Other surveys on this topic show comparable results.
[62][63] Independent of age, coming-out can potentially result in a difficult life crisis, sometimes leading to thoughts or acts of
suicide. While homosexuals have created support networks in the last decades, sadomasochistic support networks are just starting to develop in most countries. In German speaking countries they are only moderately more developed.
[64] The internet is the prime contact point for support groups today, allowing for local and international networking. In the US
Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) a privately funded, non-profit service provides the community with referrals to psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are knowledgeable about and sensitive to the BDSM, fetish, and leather community.
[65] In the USA and the UK, the
Woodhull Freedom Foundation & Federation,
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and
Sexual Freedom Coalition (SFC) have emerged to represent the interests of sadomasochists. The German Bundesvereinigung Sadomasochismus e.V. is committed to the same aim of providing information and driving press relations. In 1996 the website and mailing list
Datenschlag went online in German and English providing the largest
bibliography, as well as one of the most extensive historical collections of sources related to BDSM.
[edit]Parties and clubs
BDSM parties are events on which BDSM practitioners and other similarly interested people meet in order to communicate, share experiences and knowledge, and to "play" in an erotic atmosphere. The parties show similarities with ones in the
dark culture, being based on a more or less strictly enforced
dress code; most often clothing made of latex, leather or vinyl/PVC, lycra and so on., emphasizing the body's shape and the primary and secondary sexual characteristic. The requirement for such dress codes differ. While some events have none, others have a policy in order to create a more coherent atmosphere and to prevent voyeurs from taking part.
[66]At these parties, BDSM can be publicly performed on a stage, or more privately in separate "
dungeons".
[67] Sexual intercourse is only rarely seen, and almost taboo within most public play spaces. A reason for the relatively fast spread of this kind of event is the opportunity to use a wide range of "playing equipment", which in most apartments or houses is unavailable. Slings, St. Andrews crosses (or similar restraining constructs), spanking benches, and punishing supports or cages are often made available. The problem of noise disturbance is also lessened at these events, while in the home setting many BDSM activities can be limited by this factor. In addition, such parties offer both
exhibitionists and
voyeurs a forum to indulge their inclinations without social opprobrium. In order to ensure the maximum safety and comfort for the participants certain standards of behavior have evolved, these include aspects of
courtesy,
privacy, respect and
safewords among others.
[8] Today BDSM parties are taking place in most of the larger cities in the western world.
In some cities there are specialized BDSM clubs with a more or less structured program schedule, in which theme parties alternate with topic-free "play evenings", similar to the business concepts of more conventional
nightclubs. Social control of these parties and/or in the clubs is far higher than in a normal discothèque. Consensuality in the public BDSM sessions is strictly monitored and enforced. Apart from commercial events there are also privately organized or only moderately profit-oriented parties, which are organized by BDSM groups and individuals.
Minors are not allowed at parties or clubs, even though intercourse and drinking are usually not found in these parties.
[edit]Psychology
[edit]Prevalence
BDSM is practiced in all social strata and is common in both heterosexual and homosexual men and women in varied occurrences and intensities.
[68][69] The spectrum ranges from couples with no connections to the subculture in their homes, without any awareness of the concept of BDSM, playing "tie-me-up-games", to public scenes on St. Andrew's crosses at large events, for example the
Folsom Fairs in several American and European cities. The percentage of women is significantly higher than that of most behavior patterns formally considered to be
paraphilias. Estimation on the overall percentage of BDSM related sexual behavior in the general population range from 5 to 25 percent, depending on the scientific objectives.
Two professional dominatrixes interviewed by David Shankbone about the psychological aspects of some of their stranger request.
[70]A non-representative survey on the sexual behavior of American students published in 1997 and based on questionnaires had a response rate of about 8–9%. It results showed 15% of openly homosexual males, 21% of openly lesbian and female bisexual students, 11% of heterosexual males and 9% of female heterosexual students committed to BDSM related fantasies.
[52] In all groups the level of practical BDSM experiences varied about 6%. Within the group of openly female bisexuals and lesbians the quote was significantly higher, at 21%. Independent of their sexual orientation, about 12% of all questioned students, 16% of the outed female lesbians and bisexuals and 8% of the male heterosexuals articulated an interest in spanking. Experience with this sexual behavior was indicated by 30% of male heterosexuals, 33% of female bisexuals and lesbians, and 24% of the male gay and bisexual men and female heterosexual women.
[52] Even if this study were not considered representative, other surveys indicate similar dimensions in a differing target groups.
[71][72][73]In a representative study published in 1999 by the German Institut für rationale Psychologie, about two thirds of the interviewed women stated a desire to be at the mercy of their sexual partners from time to time. 69% admitted to fantasies dealing with sexual submissiveness, 42% stated interest in explicit BDSM techniques, 25% in bondage.
[74] A 1976 study in the general U.S. population suggests three percent have had positive experiences with Bondage or master-slave role playing. Overall 12% of the interviewed females and 18% of the males were willing to try it.
[75][76] A 1990
Kinsey Institute report stated that 5% to 10% of Americans occasionally engage in sexual activities related to BDSM. 11% of men and 17% of women reported trying bondage.
[77][78] Some elements of BDSM have been popularized through increased media coverage since the middle 1990s. Thus both black leather clothing, sexual jewellery such as chains and dominance role play appear increasingly outside of BDSM contexts.
According to a 2005 survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries, about 20% of the surveyed people have at least once used masks, blindfolds or other bondage utilities, and 5% explicitly connected themselves with BDSM.
[79] In 2004, 19% mentioned spanking as one of their practices and 22% confirmed the use of blindfolds and/or handcuffs.
[79] Some BDSM accessories, like the
Ring of O, have been integrated into the jewelry collections of internationally well known designers like
Calvin Klein.
[edit]Psychological categorization
In the past, many activities and fantasies related to BDSM were generally attributed to
sadism or masochism and were regarded by
psychiatrists as an illness. Following the
International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10)
sadomasochism is categorized a "Disorder of sexual preference" (
F65.5) and described as follows:
"A preference for sexual activity which involves the infliction of pain or humiliation, or bondage. If the subject prefers to be the recipient of such stimulation this is called masochism; if the provider, sadism. Often an individual obtains sexual excitement from both sadistic and masochistic activities."[80]With the publication of the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) in 1994 new criteria of diagnosis were available describing BDSM clearly not as disorders of sexual preferences. They are no longer regarded as illnesses in and of themselves. The DSM-IV asserts that
"The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors" must
"cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" in order for sexual
sadism or masochism to be considered a disorder. In an
AASECT article providing guidelines for therapists working with BDSM clients, sexologists
Charles Allen Moser and
Peggy Kleinplatz highlight that distress can occur in BDSM patients due to stigma and discrimination surrounding BDSM, and that in these circumstances the role of the therapist is to
"validate the distress rather than to "cure" the BDSM desires."[81] The DSM-IVs' latest edition (DSM-IV-TR) further requires that the activity must be the sole means of sexual gratification for a period of six (6) months, and either cause "clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" or involve a violation of "
consent" to be diagnosed as a paraphilia.
[82]Overlays of sexual preference disorders and the practice of BDSM practices can occur, however.
In Europe, an organization called
ReviseF65 has worked towards this purpose in the International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10).
[83] In 1995, Denmark became the first
European Union country to have completely removed sadomasochism from its national classification of diseases. This was followed by Sweden in 2009, Norway in 2010 and Finland 2011.
[84][85][86] Recent surveys on the spread of BDSM fantasies and practices show strong variations in the range of their results.
[87] Nevertheless it can be stated that the vast majority of the researchers assume 5 to 25 percent of the population showing sexual behavior related to joyfully experienced pain or dominance and submission. The population with related fantasies is considered even higher.
[87]There are only a few studies researching the psychological aspects of BDSM using modern scientific standards. A pivotal survey on the subject was published by US-American psychotherapist
Charles Moser in 1988 in the
Journal of Social Work and Human Sexuality.
[61] His conclusion was that while there is a general lack of data on the psychological problems of BDSM practitioners, some fundamental results are obvious. He emphasizes that there is no evidence for the theory that BDSM has common symptoms or
any common psychopathology; Clinical literature, though does not give a consistent picture of BDSM practitioners. Moser emphasizes that there is no evidence at all supporting the theory of BDSM practitioners having any special psychiatric problems or even problems based solely on their preferences.
Moser's results were supported by data presented to the 2007
World Congress of Sexology by Juliet Richters, Richard De Visser, Andrew Grulich, and
Christropher Rissel. The researchers found that BDSM practitioners were no more likely to have experienced sexual assault than the control group, and were not more likely to feel unhappy or anxious. The BDSM males reported higher levels of psychological well-being than the controls. It was concluded that "BDSM is simply a sexual interest attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with normal sex."
[88]Problems do sometimes occur in the area of self classification by the person concerned. During the phase of the "coming-out", self questioning related to one's own "normality" is quite common. According to Moser, the discovery of BDSM preferences
can result in fear of the current non-BDSM relationship's destruction. This, combined with the fear of discrimination in everyday life, leads in some cases to a double life which can be highly burdensome. At the same time, the denial of BDSM preferences can induce stress and dissatisfaction with one's own "vanilla"-lifestyle, feeding the apprehension of finding no partner. Moser states that BDSM practitioners having problems finding BDSM partners would probably have problems in finding a non-BDSM partner as well. The wish to remove BDSM preferences is another possible reason for psychological problems since it is not possible in most cases. Finally, the scientist states that BDSM practitioners seldom commit violent crimes. From his point of view, crimes of BDSM practitioners usually have no connection with the BDSM components existing in their life. Moser's study comes to the conclusion that there is no scientific evidence, which could give reason to refuse members of this group work- or safety certificates, adoption possibilities, custody or other social rights or privileges. The Swiss psychoanalyst Fritz Morgenthaler shares a similar perspective in his book,
Homosexuality, Heterosexuality, Perversion (1988). He states that possible problems result not necessarily from the non-normative behavior, but in most cases primarily from the real or feared reactions of the social environment towards the own preferences.
[89] In 1940 psychoanalyst
Theodor Reik reached implicitly the same conclusion in his standard work
Aus Leiden Freuden. Masochismus und Gesellschaft.
[90][edit]History
[edit]Origins
Copper engraving, about 1780.
The historical origins of BDSM are obscure. During the ninth century BC,
ritual flagellations were performed in
Artemis Orthia, one of the most important religious areas of ancient
Sparta, where the
Cult of Orthia, a pre
olympic religion, was practiced. Here ritual flagellation called
diamastigosis took place on a regular basis. One of the oldest graphical proofs of sadomasochistic activities is found in an
Etruscan burial site in
Tarquinia. Inside the
Tomba della Fustigazione (
Tomb of Flogging), in the latter sixth century B.C., two men are portrayed flagellating a woman with a cane and a hand during an erotic situation.
[91] Another reference related to flagellation is to be found in the sixth book of the
Satires of the ancient Roman Poet
Juvenal (1st–2nd century A.D.),
[92] further reference can be found in
Petronius's
Satyricon where a delinquent is whipped for sexual arousal.
[93] Anecdotal narratives related to humans who have had themselves voluntary bound, flagellated or whipped as a substitute for sex or as part of foreplay reach back to the third and fourth century.
The
Kama Sutra describes four different kinds of hitting during lovemaking, the allowed regions of the human body to target and different kinds of joyful "cries of pain" practiced by bottoms. The collection of historic texts related to sensuous experiences explicitly emphasizes that
impact play, biting and pinching during sexual activities should only be performed consensually since only some women consider such behavior to be joyful. From this perspective the Kama Sutra can be considered as one of the first written resources dealing with sadomasochistic activities and safety rules. Further texts with sadomasochistic connotation appear worldwide during the following centuries on a regular basis.
[94]There are anecdotal reports of people willingly being bound or whipped, as a prelude to or substitute for sex, during the 14th century. The medieval phenomenon of
courtly love in all of its slavish devotion and ambivalence has been suggested by some writers to be a precursor of BDSM.
[95][96] Some sources claim that BDSM as a distinct form of sexual behavior originated at the beginning of the 18th century when Western civilization began medically and legally categorizing sexual behavior (see
Etymology). There are reports of brothels specializing in flagellation as early as 1769, and John Cleland's novel
Fanny Hill, published in 1749, mentions a flagellation scene.
[97] Other sources give a broader definition, citing BDSM-like behavior in earlier times and other cultures, such as the medieval flagellates and the physical
ordeal rituals of some
Native American societies.
[98]Although the names of the
Marquis de Sade and
Leopold von Sacher-Masoch are attached to the terms sadism and masochism respectively, the scenes described in Sade's works do not meet modern BDSM standards of informed consent.
[99] BDSM is solely based on consensual activities, and based on its system and laws, the concepts presented by Marquis de Sade are not agreed upon the BDSM culture, even though they are sadistic in nature.
[19] BDSM ideas and imagery have existed on the fringes of Western culture throughout the twentieth century. Robert Bienvenu attributes the origins of modern BDSM to three sources, which he names as "European Fetish" (from 1928), "American Fetish" (from 1934), and "Gay Leather" (from 1950).
[100] Another source are the
sexual games played in
brothels, which go back into the 19th century if not earlier.
Irving Klaw, during the 1950s and 1960s, produced some of the first commercial film and photography with a BDSM theme (most notably with
Bettie Page) and published comics by the now-iconic bondage artists
John Willieand
Eric Stanton.
Stanton's model Bettie Page became at the same time one of the first successful models in the area of fetish photography and one of the most famous
pin-up girls of American mainstream culture. Italian author and designer
Guido Crepax was deeply influenced by him, coining the style and development of European adult comics in the second half of the twentieth century. The artists
Helmut Newton and
Robert Mapplethorpe are the most prominent examples of the increasing use of BDSM-related motives in modern photography and the public discussions still resulting from this.
[101][edit]Leather movement
Much of the BDSM ethos can be traced back to the gay male
leather culture, which formalized itself out of the group of men who were soldiers returning home after
World War II (1939–1945).
[102] This subculture is epitomized by the
Leatherman's Handbook by
Larry Townsend, published in 1972, which describes in detail the practices and culture of gay male sadomasochists in the late 1960s and early 1970s.
[103][104] In 1981, however, the publication of
Coming to Powerby lesbian-feminist group
Samois led to a greater knowledge and acceptance of BDSM in the lesbian community.
[105] They got into conflict with fundamentalist part of the feminist movement which considered BDSM to be the base of misogyny and violent porn.
Today the Leather Movement is generally seen as a part of the BDSM-culture instead as a development deriving from gay subculture, even if a huge part of the BDSM-subculture was gay in the past. In the 1990s the so called
New Guard leather subculture evolved. This new orientation started to integrate psychological aspects into their play.
[edit]Internet
In the late-eighties, the
Internet provided a way of finding people with specialized interests around the world as well as on a local level, and communicating with them anonymously.
[8][106] This brought about an explosion of interest and knowledge of BDSM, particularly on the
usenet group
alt.sex.bondage. When that group became too cluttered with
spam, the focus moved to
soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.
In addition to traditional sex shops, which sell sex paraphernalia, there has also been an explosive growth of online
adult toy companies that specialize in leather/latex gear and BDSM toys. Once a very
niche market, there are now very few
sex toy companies that do not offer some sort of BDSM or
fetish gear in their catalog. Kinky elements seem to have worked their way into "
vanilla" markets. The former niche expanded to an important pillar of the business with adult accessories.
[107] Today practically all suppliers of sex toys do offer items which originally found usage in the BDSM subculture. Padded handcuffs, latex and leather garments, as well as more exotic items like soft whips for fondling and TENS for erotic electro stimulation can be found in catalog aiming on classical vanilla target groups, indicating that former boundaries increasingly seem to shift.
During the last years the Internet also provides a central platform for networking among individuals who are interested in the subject. Besides countless private and commercial choices there is an increasing number of local networks and support groups emerging. These groups often offer comprehensive background and health related information for people who have been unwillingly outed as well as contact lists with information on
psychologists,
physicians and
lawyerswho are familiar with BDSM related topics.
[108][edit]Etymology
The terms "Sadism" and "Masochism" are derived from the names of the
Marquis de Sade and
Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, based on the content of the authors' works. In 1843 the Hungarian physician Heinrich Kaan published
Psychopathia sexualis ("Psychopathy of Sex"), a writing in which he converts the sin conceptions of Christianity into medical diagnoses. With his work the originally theological terms "perversion", "aberration" and "deviation" became part of the scientific terminology for the first time.
[dubious – discuss] The German psychiatrist
Richard von Krafft Ebing introduced the terms "Sadism" and "Masochism" to the medical community in his work
Neue Forschungen auf dem Gebiet der Psychopathia sexualis ("New research in the area of Psychopathy of Sex") in 1890.
[109]In 1905
Sigmund Freud described "Sadism" and "Masochism" in his
Drei Abhandlungen zur Sexualtheorie ("Three papers on Sexual theory") as diseases developing from an incorrect development of the child psyche and laid the groundwork for the scientific perspective on the subject in the following decades. This led to the first time use of the compound term
Sado-Masochism (German "Sado-Masochismus")) by the Viennese Psychoanalytic
Isidor Isaak Sadger in its work
Über den sado-masochistischen Komplex ("Regarding the sadomasochistic complex") in 1913.
[110]In the past BDSM activists turned repeatedly against these conceptual models, originally deriving from singular historical figures and implying a clear
pathological connotation. They argued that there is no common sense in attributing a phenomenon as complex as BDSM to two individual humans, as well one might speak of "
Leonardism" instead of
Homosexuality. The BDSM scene tried to distinguish themselves with the expression "B&D" for bondage and discipline from the sometimes pejorative connotations of the term "S&M". The abbreviation BDSM itself was probably coined in the early 1990s in the subculture connected with the
Usenet newsgroup
alt.sex.bondage. The earliest posting with the term which is now preserved in Google Groups dates from June 1991. Later the dominance and submission dimension was integrated into the connotation of BDSM, creating the compound
acronym common today.
[edit]Legal status
A bit
gag used in BDSM made of leather, steel and wood
It is entirely dependent on the legal situation in individual countries whether the practice of BDSM has any criminal relevance or legal consequences. Criminalization of consensually implemented BDSM practices is usually not with explicit reference to BDSM, but results from the fact that such behavior as spanking or cuffing someone could be considered a breach of personal rights, which in principle constitutes a criminal offense.
In
Germany,
Netherlands,
Japan and
Scandinavia such behavior is legal in principle. In
Austria the legal status is unclear, while in
Switzerland certain BDSM practices can be considered criminal. Spectacular incidents like the US-American scandal of
People v. Jovanovic and the British
Operation Spannerdemonstrate the degree to which difficult grey areas can pose a problem for the individuals and authorities involved. For these reasons it is important for practitioners of BDSM to learn the legal status concerning BDSM activities in the country they reside in.
[edit]Germany
The practice of BDSM is not generally penalized in Germany if it is conducted with the mutual consent of the partners involved. To fulfill the charge of coercion the use of violence, or the threat of a "severe mistreatment" must involve an endangerment to life and limb. In cases where the continued application of the treatment could be ended through the use of a
safeword, neither coercion nor sexual coercion may be charged. Similar principles apply for charges of sexual abuse of people incapable of resistance. In such cases taking advantage of a person's inability to resist in order to perform sexual acts on that person would be clearly punishable. The potential use of the safeword is considered to be sufficient possibility for resistance since this would lead to the cessation of the act, so a true inability to resist is not considered to be in effect.
According to §194 the charge of insult (slander) can only be prosecuted if the defamed person chooses to press charges. False imprisonment can be charged if the victim—when applying an objective view—can be considered to be impaired in his or her rights of free movement. According to §228 of the German criminal code a person inflicting a bodily injury on another person with that person's permission violates the law only in cases where the act can be considered to have violated good morals in spite of permission having been given. On 26 May 2004 the Criminal Panel #2 of the
Bundesgerichtshof (German Federal Court) ruled that sado-masochistically motivated physical injuries are not per se indecent and thus subject to §228.
[111]Still, this ruling makes the question of indecency dependent on the degree to which the bodily injury might be likely to impair the health of the receiving party. According to the BGH, the line of
indecency is definitively crossed when "under an objectively prescient consideration of all relevant circumstances the party granting consent could be brought into concrete danger of death by the act of bodily injury." In its ruling the court overturned a verdict by the Provincial Court of Kassel, according to which a man who had accidentally strangled his partner to death had been sentenced to probation for negligent manslaughter. The court had rejected a conviction on charges of bodily injury leading to death on the grounds that the victim had, in its opinion, consented to the act.
Following cases in which sado-masochistic practices had been repeatedly used as pressure tactics against former partners in custody cases, the Appeals Court of
Hamm ruled in February 2006 that sexual inclinations toward sado-masochism are no indication of a lack of capabilities for successful child-raising.
[112][edit]United Kingdom
British law does not recognize the possibility of consenting to bodily injury. Such acts are illegal, even between consenting adults, and these laws are enforced (
R v Brown being the leading case).
[113]Accordingly consensual activities in the UK may not constitute "assault occasioning actual or grievous bodily harm" in law. The
Spanner Trust states that this is defined as activities which have caused injury "of a lasting nature" but that only a slight duration or injury might be considered "lasting" in law.
[114] The decision contrasts with the later case of
R v Wilson in which conviction for non-sexual consensual branding within a marriage was overturned, the appeal court ruling that R v Brown was not an authority in all cases of consensual injury and criticizing the decision to prosecute.
[115] Following Operation Spanner the
European Court of Human Rights ruled in January 1999 in
Laskey, Jaggard and Brown v. United Kingdom that no violation of
Article 8 occurred because the amount of physical or psychological harm that the law allows between any two people, even consenting adults, is to be determined by the
jurisdiction the individuals live in, as it is the State's responsibility to balance the concerns of
public health and well-being with the amount of control a State should be allowed to exercise over its citizens. In the Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill 2007, the British Government cited the Spanner case as justification for criminalizing images of consensual acts, as part of its proposed criminalization of possession of
"extreme pornography".
[116]In Italian law BDSM is right on the border between crime and legality, and everything lies in the interpretation of the legal code by the judge. This concept is that anyone willingly causing "injury" to another person is to be punished. In this context though "injury" is legally defined as "anything causing a condition of illness", and "illness" is ill-defined itself in two different legal ways. The first is "any anatomical or functional alteration of the organism" (thus technically including little scratches and bruises too); The second is "a significant worsening of a previous condition relevant to organic and relational processes, requiring any kind of therapy". This could make it somewhat risky to play with someone as later the "victim" may call foul play citing even an insignificant mark as evidence against the partner. Also any injury requiring over 20 days of medical care must be denounced by the professional medic who discovers it, leading to automatic indictment of the person who caused it.
[117][edit]Austria
§90 of the criminal code declares bodily injury (§§ 83, 84) or the endangerment of physical security (§89) to not be subject to penalty in cases in which the "victim" has consented and the injury or endangerment does not offend moral sensibilities. Case law from the Austrian Supreme Court has consistently shown that bodily injury is only offensive to moral sensibilities, thus it is only punishable when a "serious injury" (a damage to health or an employment disability lasting more than 24 days) or the death of the "victim" results. A
light injury is generally considered
permissible when the "victim" has consented to it. In cases of threats to bodily well-being the standard depends on the probability that an injury will actually occur. If serious injury or even death would be a likely result of a threat being carried out, then even the threat itself is considered punishable.
[citation needed][edit]Switzerland
The age of consent in Switzerland is 16 years which also applies for BDSM play. Minors (i.e. those under 16) are not subject to punishment for BDSM play as long as the age difference between them is less than three years. Certain practices however require granting consent for light injuries with only those over 18 permitted to give consent. On 1 April 2002 Articles 135 and 197 of the Swiss Criminal Code were tightened to make ownership of
"objects or demonstrations [...] which depict sexual acts with violent content" a punishable offense. This law amounts to a general criminalization of sado-masochism since nearly every sado-masochist will have some kind of media which fulfills this criteria. Critics also object to the wording of the law which puts sado-masochists in the same category as
pedophiles and
pederasts.
[118][119][edit]Nordic countries
In September 2010 a Swedish court acquitted a 32 year old man of assault for engaging in consensual BDSM play with a 16 year old woman (the
age of consent in Sweden is 15).
[120] Norway's legal system has likewise taken a similar position,
[121] that safe and consensual BDSM play should not be subject to criminal prosecution. This parallels the stance of the mental health professions in the Nordic countries which have removed sadomasochism from their respective lists of psychiatric illnesses.
[edit]BDSM and culture
[edit]Theatre
Although it would be possible to establish certain elements related to BDSM in classical theater, not until the emergence of contemporary theatre could you see such topics as the main theme in the performing arts. Exemplifying this are two works: one Austrian, one German, in which BDSM is not only incorporated, but integral to the storyline of the play.
Worauf sich Körper kaprizieren,
Austria. Peter Kern directs and writes the script for this
comedy which is a present day adaption of Jean Genet's 1950 film, A chant d'amour. A marriage in which the wife (film veteran
Miriam Goldschmidt) submits her husband (
Heinrich Herkie) and the butler (
Günter Bubbnik) to her sadistic treatment, until two new characters take their places.
[122] Ach, Hilde (Oh, Hilda),
Germany. A play by Anna Schwemmer that premiered in
Berlin. A young Hilde becomes pregnant, and after being abandoned by her boyfriend she decides to become a professional dominatrix to earn money. The play carefully crafts a playful and frivolous picture of the field of professional dominatrices.
[123] - With film, the human being reaches the fullness of their status as voyeur. The film almost needs not mention it, an indivisible part of the human condition since the beginning of the century and millennium.[124]
Apart from films that are part of the commercial pornography circuit, cinema has been treated since its inception with in depth BDSM relationships, from 1909 to the present decade. The current decade in particular has an abundance of examples:
Sade,
Quills,
The Piano Teacher,
Beyond Vanilla,
Secretary,
Wir leben, among others.
[edit]Literature
Although examples of literature catering to BDSM and fetishistic taste was created in earlier periods, BDSM literature as it exists today cannot be found much earlier than
World War II.
A central work in BDSM literature is undoubtedly the
Story of O(1954) by
Anne Desclos (under the pseudonym
Pauline Réage) in addition to:
9 ½ weeks(1978) by
Elizabeth McNeill,
Dezemberkind(2003, 2004) by
Leander Sukov, some works of the writer
Anne Rice (
Exit to Eden,
The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty (1983),
Beauty's Punishment (1984) and
Beauty's Release (1985)),
Jeanne de Berg (
L'Image(1956) dedicated to
Pauline Réage), and the novel
Topping from Below(1999) by
Laura Reese. More recently, the novels of
Marthe Blau:
Submission and
Between Your Hands(2005). Works from the GOR series by
John Norman, and naturally all the works of
Pat Califia,
Gloria Brame, the group Samois and many of the writer
Georges Bataille (Histoire de l'oeil-Story of the Eye, "Madame Edwarda, 1937), as well as Bob
Flanagan: Slave Sonnets (1986),
Fuck Journal (1987),
A Taste of Honey (1990). A common part of many of the poems of
Pablo Neruda is a reflection on feelings and sensations arising from the relations of EPE or erotic exchange of power.
[edit]A new subgenre: BDSM romance
The exponential increase in the BDSM community in the last 10 years has led to the emergence of a literary subgenre that previously did not exist: BDSM romance. There have always been stories of bondage, sadomasochism, and so on.., observable since at least the 14th century, and earlier in mediums that poorly explored the area in this regard (see the Cantar de Mio Cid), but this as a genre emerged in the twenty-first century.
In 2005 there were many authors dedicated to write prolifically, at least half a dozen novels per year, and in some cases based on own experience as practitioners of BDSM, or in other cases entering from an outside genre, and established BDSM writers becoming more frequent in authoring works.
[125]As in the case of literature a list of BDSM art should not include works of the early history depicting sadomasochism, flogging, fetishism, and so on., but should start when the integrative aspects of BDSM become visible. In this sense figures such as those from Venus de Kostienki, Russia (3000 BC) or engraved on the tomb and the sarcophagus of the Egyptian aristocrat Bastret (1376 BC) are not considered BDSM art(as depicting BDSM was not their primary purpose). For art which is undeniably BDSM art, it follows that the artist has spent most or part of their work dealing with BDSM, so an image of flogging by an artist who does many BDSM works is probably depicting BDSM, while the same image done by a historic maritime artist depicting life aboard a British vessel would probably not be considered BDSM art(although context, and the work itself would usually ultimately determine what the subject matter is discussing). Examples include:
- In Photography: Eric Kroll and Irving Klaw (with Bettie Page, the first bondage model), and Japanese photographer Araki Nobuyoshi, whose works are exhibited in several major art museums, galleries and private collections, such as the Baroness Marion Lambert, the world's largest holder of contemporary photographic art. Also Robert Mapplethorpe who has dealt with BDSM themes in many of his works.
- Comic book drawings: Guido Crepax with Histoire d'O (1975), Justine (1979) and Venere in Pelliccia (1984); inspired by the work of Pauline Reage, Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. John Willie and the Adventures of Sweet Gwendoline(1984) which was the basis for the film Gwendolyn.
- In graphic design: Eric Stanton and his work on dominance and female bondage, as well as Hajime Sorayama, Robert Bishop and Dolcetto.
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i last posted on october 26 - a little over three months ago. my entire life has changed in those three months, and for the better. babyfriend arrived on november 19. she's a girl (! - despite my firm belief all throughout my pregnancy that she was a he, despite the ongoing morning sickness, the acne, how i carried high, my constant craving of sweets, and all of the other old-wives-tale signs that it was a girl) - a beautiful, funny, strong, smiley, sweet, and chill baby girl we named naomi siobhan. i have been off work, sequestered in the house (in the dead of winter - not that i mind at all), feeding and changing and holding and playing with this little person who i have absolutely no idea what i did to deserve. so, yeah, i've been a bit preoccupied.
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